Category: QueensUmum Stuff

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Temporary Empty Nest Syndrome

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have your house back to yourself again? To be free of the accumulation that builds up whenever there are kids around regardless of their ages? Or at least to put it all away for a little while? time We are about to have the opportunity to find out about this.  This school year my son will be going back to his 3rd year of computer studies at university and my daughter will be starting in medical sciences at college. Both will be living away from home. Even though they won't…

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Packing Challenge

Today is another bittersweet day at our house. My son is up in his room contemplating packing for his second year at university where he will be living in a rental house with a bunch of friends. Last year we had many trips to the stores to stock up with everything he needs but this year, the challenge is getting him to pack. Being more independent now he doesn't want help. The thing is he hasn't started this process yet. Tomorrow is the day we fill up the van for the early morning move the next day into a rental house two hours…

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Cha-cha-cha-changes and the Green Acres Inn

I have been writing a series about my son living at university in another town. I like to explore his temporary home whenever we go to visit him either for pick ups or drop offs. It is a town our family has grown to love. The series is called #QueensUmum and it is about our adventures in Kingston, Ontario.  I would never have found this lovely place if not for the fact that my son is attending Queen's University. It's limestone buildings are rich with the history of Britain and Canada.  We've stayed in many fine hotels since the summer of 2015. Recently, my…

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The Return of Thing 1

I drove Thing 1 back to School today. It wasn't a very dramatic farewell as it has been every other time. I'd heard that Thanksgiving was when: Stress from everything either makes them crash or it all starts to make sense; They feel more comfortable in their dorms, and know where everything is on campus; The kids come back to school with colds ( he's predictably got the sniffles ); He's definitely fitting in now and is more comfortable.  A certain calmness has descended.  This weekend marks the first visit home from Thing 1 - the first time since he's left to go to…

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Moving in day…AKA the BIG LEAP

(Here is an audio version I recorded of this blog. Feel free to listen as you read through although I have to warn you - I get a bit emotional!) Listen: [audio m4a="http://www.eclecticsoapbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/Moving-In-Day.m4a"] or, Read: This was the day I had been dreading for months. The day my first born - Thing 1, moved out of our home to go to school for four years. Guess what? I survived. But it has taken me two weeks to sit down and write about it. The first week I still felt too fragile. Nothing was right when I woke up in the…

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How to Survive Your Child Leaving Home

People keep telling me that he'll be fine, he needs to grow into the adult he will be, he has to make his own mistakes now. I know that. And I know I've done my job and he will be fine. Plus, it'll only be temporary, I hope. Long ago, I lived in residence and I think I remember a few things that will help him feel at home and prepared. Here are some of my ideas: Getting ready to go We aren't going to leave this until the day before. Not while I'm still in charge haha. We've been looking at lists on…

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Free Money for School

I can't believe how much paperwork is involved with sending your child to University. Some papers you must fill in over a year in advance. Some you can't fill in until graduation. In between there are more forms than I could keep track of. In Canada, there are many places to find free money including companies you or your family works for, places you do business with, (i.e. banks,) your high school, civic organizations and the college or university you are considering. As well: Scholarships Canada University Study Yconic Government of Canada Youth Financial Consumer Agency of Canada CanLearn OSAP Here's…

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Time to Slam into a Brick Wall – Again

Time Have you ever looked at your crying, runny nosed, unrelenting, needing 'who knows what' baby and felt like time was standing still? Like you were stuck in an unending merry-go-round of feeding, changing, cleaning, carrying, repeat? I felt that way many times 18 years ago. Some days I thought I’d never get through it. I was miserable and my new son was an uncommunicative alien who was unreasonable and sucking the life out of me.  I’d been on the fast track with my career in a very powerful, rapidly expanding National communications company as purchasing manager. The money, benefits and four weeks vacation…

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Having a Blast!

Fort Henry Blasts You Back in Time (For the audio version click the play button below.) [audio mp3="http://www.eclecticsoapbox.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/FortHenry.mp3"] Thing 1 and I were in Kingston recently to explore and attend the Queen's University orientation for new students. ( Click here to read all about it. ) It was a whirlwind trip planning for the future but we managed to spend a good chunk of our time looking back in the past. We had an amazing day of exploring Fort Henry topped off by massive explosions and fireworks - what more could you ask for? A beautiful lake view you say? Or maybe…

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Preparing for the Big Leap

As many of you may know, Thing 1 is heading off to Queen’s University this fall. #noTears! The Big Leap In order to help get him ready, we’ve decided to take a few trips to Kingston to check out the new "hood". The transition from high school to university will be shocking enough without having to worry about getting around campus, buying groceries, a shirt or finding some decent fries. I can’t do much to help once school starts - especially being as far away as we’ll be. But I can do something now to assist him in preparing for "the big leap".…

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