20 Years of Something

This man is the person I have vowed to spend the rest of my life with. He knows me more than any other human, he accepts my quirks, and understands why I am the way I am. I feel the same way about him, (and trying to change him is one of my quirks lol).

Our wedding day was a comedy of errors but at the end of it all we have been married 20 years today, and we met 23 years ago. In his ring I had the the following words engraved: ‘Today I marry my best friend’. This still remains true decades later.

Somehow lol. 

It hasn’t been easy. Nothing worth having ever is. We have had many roadblocks along the way including the second, fifth, seventh, tenth, eleventh, thirteenth, fourteenth… ( you get the idea ) …’itches’. But we’ve scratched them enough.

It was so hard to get married – for me at least, because

I didn’t want it to ever end once it started.

We agreed once it was done it was done. The logical side of my brain still screams about it NOT being logical or natural or that much fun many days, to stay with the same partner forever.

I love who we are together. We have made this THING of a life together and that’s all we know. We have made choices that have taken us from other paths to keep us together like this. We have raised our kids together and cried together and laughed so long and hard together. This is what is right for us. It works.

Some of the positive things that I would like to share with you about being married this long:

  • We know each other really well;
  • We have learned to compromise;
  • We remember the important dates, (and if we don’t it doesn’t matter as much.);
  • You can be the real you;
  • You can toot in front of each other without being mortified;
  • It’s comfortable – since they know you so well you don’t have to hide your stinky bits;

Some of the negative things about being married this long:

  • We know each other so well the mystery is practically absent although there are still “I can’t believe you said/did that” moments;
  • We often have to compromise to stay together;
  • The dates don’t matter as much;
  • Sometimes you get sick of the real person and would appreciate another for a little while;
  • Gas passing;
  • Sometimes you’d like the stinky bits to be hid – a lot.

Ultimately this had to happen:

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For this to happen:

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And I’m still ok with that.

Happy Anniversary Hubs.

 

 

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Comments (6)

  1. October 14, 2015 - 11:42 am Reply

    Aww… Happy Anniversary. We are at 12 years. Thanks for admitting to your “itches” it helps those of us not as far along the path feel normal. 🙂

  2. October 14, 2015 - 7:08 pm Reply

    Happy Anniversary! What a lovely post to honor your 20 years together! After 29 years…..I couldn’t agree with both the positive and negative list!!

  3. October 14, 2015 - 10:54 pm Reply

    Woo! Congrats!
    There was a time when a whole year with the same person seemed dreadful, but now, after 7 years with my hubby (married for 3), I can totally see how people make it so long. You just have to find the right person to match your craziness.

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