A little while ago I was asked to share my family’s experiences dealing with enuresis – the bed wetting condition that most commonly occurs at night. ( Click here to see the first post. ) In that post I mentioned that it was a condition that affects way more kids than is commonly known, approximately 1 in 6.
I found a great site full of information about bedwetting that helped answer all my questions: GoodNites Bedwetting Education.
Since then many people have discussed this condition with me. I have been thanked more for publishing that post than any other I have written. It now comes as no surprise to say that everyone I know is aware of someone dealing with this, or is personally familiar with this condition.
I’ve even had people tell me how grateful they were to be able to share my post with other people they know to help educate them to the fact that this isn’t a ‘training’ issue.
Not easy to go public about
It was uncomfortable for me to write about it the first time – to post about something so personal and taboo. But I did so because I believe that this is one of those issues that needs to be discussed out loud – not just whispered about with embarrassment. You might not want to talk about it, but you, or someone you know, might need to talk about it.
Now I want to show you how it affected my child. From her point of view. You see, the first post generated so much positive feedback that she now feels she can discuss her feelings about it publicly.
I am so gratified that in my attempt to help bring light to this condition, to show other parents that they are not alone and do not need to feel guilty for being ‘bad parents’ that it actually helped the most important person of all – my daughter.
She has a story she wants to share:
“I’ve learned a lot about this condition since I’ve gotten older. There were things I didn’t really understand when I was younger like that the average age for kids to stop wetting their bed is 4. I was 13.
It sucks, no matter what people say, it really hurts. You feel like you are the broken one, the odd one out, or the misfit. You just feel lame.
Friends understood if I ever told them but I hated telling them. Their understanding made me feel worse. From a kid’s point of view, hearing people say ‘it’s ok, it’ll get better’ was infuriating. I wanted it to get better now.
My doctor explained it to me by telling me a story about ‘the Bladder Guards.’ He explained in kid language that the guards who looked after the door to my bladder at night were still learning their job. He said they needed lots more practice before they could keep my bladder closed all night long.
He told me there was a way to help get them ready before I fell asleep at night. This gave me something to think about instead of worrying I’d wake up with a wet bed. I was allowed to record what he said so I could listen to it every night and share it with my friends if they needed to hear it too.
It was very soothing to me and the way he put it made sense when I was little. Even though I knew I might still wet my bed at night, listening to this recording made me feel like I had at least a little control.
If I could give you a little advice based on my experience, I’d like to suggest some things you should tell your child:
- It is not their fault;
- Stick to a routine at night – stop drinking water at a certain point to reduce the amount that comes out;
- Tell them the story I heard about the ‘guards of the bladder’ not being able to do their job so they understand the situation easier;
- Wear the GoodNites Bedtime Pants – they look pretty cute these days, hide under your pjs and they work;
- And especially tell them, it does get better, they will grow past it.”
Those were wise words from someone who spent most of her life dealing with this issue. Just remember – as a parent you are not alone, there are ways to help deal with the situation, and it won’t last forever.
Talk to your doctor and use the resources available to learn about enuresis. Check out the GoodNites website which is packed full of great information. Talk about it with your child and family and most importantly, relax – this too will pass.
I welcome you to leave your thoughts and questions in the comments below.
Disclaimer: I appreciate that this post was sponsored and would like to assure you that everything written is true and heartfelt.